what makes a tomboy a tomboy?
on line dictionaries definitions say that a tomboy is “a girl who behaves in a boyish manner” (worldwebonline.com), more specifically “a girl who acts or dresses in a boyish way, liking rough outdoor activities” (collins english dictionary). synonimes of the words are considered “hoyden” (“a high-spirited, boisterous, or saucy girl”) and “romp” (“one, especially a girl, that sports and frolics”).
those definitions look rather poor, as it often happens when we deal with definitions developped into a mainstream mentality that keeps gender studies into little account. wikipedia gives a more detailed/gender aware description:
A tomboy is a girl who exhibits some characteristics of the gender role of a boy.
This social phenomenon typically manifests itself through some of these characteristics:
* The wearing of typically masculine-oriented types of clothes.
* The practice of games and activities (often physical in nature) that are typically considered to be the domain of boys.
* Heterosociality, the preference to befriend boys rather than other girls.
There is a perceived correlation between tomboys and lesbianism. While some tomboys later reveal a lesbian identity in their adolescent or adult years, masculine behavior typical of boys but displayed by girls is not a true indicator of one’s sexual orientation. “[ ...] Historically, tomboys have been defined, as suggested in the examples mentioned above, by “boyish” behavior (like more physically active, technological, and scientific interests) and wearing boys’ clothing. In recent times, as the ubiquity of traditionally female clothing such as dresses, blouses and skirts has declined among Western females, the distinction has become more and more one of behavior. A general increase in the popularity of women’s sporting events (see Title IX) and other activities that were traditionally male-dominated, is today broadening tolerance and lessening the impact of “tomboy” as a pejorative.[citation needed]
Childhood gender roles are handled somewhat differently for tomboys and girlish boys. Gender scholar Judith Halberstam has claimed that while the defying of gender roles is often tolerated in young girls, older girls and adolescents who display masculine traits are often repressed and punished.
you can read the full article here. a lgbt perspective can be read here.
when i have more time i will comment on it and develop reflections. i can’t do it everything right now!
the only important thing i want to focus now is that being a tomboy doesn’t necessary mean being gay – at least in about 15% of cases… i am joking!
– and in case you are a gay tomboy, one thing is being a tomboy, another thing is being a butch!
the first fictional examples to come to my mind are jo from little women, idabel from capote’s other voices, other rooms and katherine hepburn’s characters like sylvia scarlett in george cooker’s same-titled movie. going back to reality i was – and still am – a tomboy for sure.
so here come the first pictures:






It was so interesting to read!Tomboy topic attracts me very much.I want to know more about it.:-)
Thank you for spending time looking for all information and writing your own ideas.
I hope you will write more about it later.(and pictures, pictures!:-)
Nice examples.I still remember Jo from “Little women”.Classical tomboy)
I only have one question.Do you think that someone can be tomboy in 20 and to become “womanlike lady” in 30?Is it invariable or not?Just want to know what do you thing about it, Eword.
well, i don’t have a founded answer.
i think invariability o variability may depend on various factors. like a girl behaves spontaneously like a tomboy until she realises what mainstream gender expections about women are, so she may adequate herself to those, even unconsciously. on the other side, a girl feels natural acting like a boy so she continues to do it for her whole life. or maybe a girl changes hormonally and calms down!
i think we have more to reflect if tomboysm is something biological or something acquired, like a reaction to something in early childood.
also, once girls wanted to be boys because it was funnier, like boys’ games were nicer and they could go out etc. nowadays it seems to me that girls are more independent and self-confident, so i can see a piece of tomboysm even in girls who fit their gender social rules in most of things.
and also i think there are different degrees of tomboysm. you can be a tomboy and have long hair, you don’t have to be necessarily androgine.
all of that is just thinking rambling though…